Quarter Life is just a Hype.

I don’t know what is the big fuss about turning a quarter year old and why people are making it as if it is some kind of mark or checkpoint in life. While it is true that being 25 means that you are halfway in your 20s –you’re not getting any younger and you should be responsible for your actions– 25 is just a number. Life doesn’t tell you that “hey, you are already 25,  you should accomplish these things in order for you to be accepted to the next level”. This isn’t some sort of a Super Mario game. Life goes on after 25, whether I have met the expectations of the society or not.

I was once so obsessed about my own mental checklist. I have all these must-have’s and should-have’s by age 25, and guess what I haven’t ticked off even half of it, and I am perfectly fine. I realized we all have our own pace and timeline; what works for other people, might not work for me. So what if I get married at 40 or if I don’t get married at all. What if I never obtained my Masters degree just like what I hoped for myself by age 25. Does that mean I am not successful in life? Of course not.

I think the reason why we have a “quarter-life crisis” is because we put too much pressure in ourselves (aggravated by society’s expectation and social media) that we must accomplish something at a certain age or else, we will not be considered successful. Which is, if you ask me, such an awful way to measure success.

So take your time and don’t be pressured about timelines and age. You will get there in your own pace, in the right time. Here, let me just share the 25 things I have learned and the mantras that help me get by at 25.
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2016 Plans and What-nots

I was going through my drafts and found this. I continued writing it even though it is 4 months late. What do they say, better late than never?

January is actually one of my favorite months. Because it is the beginning of the year, and every beginning comes with hope. Hope that the upcoming year is going to be awesome.

To be honest, I wasn’t as thrilled when New Year came as I was on the previous years. That is because of my health condition (please see previous post).

I’ve been feeling very low for the past few days, but I think today’s going to be different. First, I am blogging again, so I am definitely trying desperately to be back to normal again. Second, I will be enumerating what I am aiming for this upcoming year. (To be honest, the past few days, I can’t even bring myself to think about the next 5 days, and here I am trying to list down my goals for this year)

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5 Ways To Know If The Girl With Big Ego Is Into You

While girls are often regarded by men as hard to understand, girls with big ego are ultimately the hardest to decipher. They say things that mean the other, they never let their guards down and they always, always show that their better off alone than to be with you.

So how would you know if she’s into you…?

1. If she tells you.

First and foremost, a girl with a big ego wouldn’t admit her feelings. So if she gets to admit it to you. Man, she’s into you BIG time.

2. If she pushes you away.

While this is something common among girls, a girl with a big ego will prefer seeing you leave than tell you to stay. It is that hard for them to admit that they need someone. So, if she pushes you away, let her by herself for a couple of days. Once you come around and she still entertains you, it is positive.

3. If she says she is not jealous but then she has turned cold.

No girl will admit that they’re jealous. Not even, not ever, the girl with big ego. No, she is not jealous at all (according to her), but watch how she will act after she saw you talk to someone over the phone or after you smile to the girl who keeps on looking at you at the other table. No, she’s not jealous, she will just bat her eyelashes and give you the coldest dinner, ever.

4. If she introduces you to her friends.

To be honest, her friends already know about you before even meeting you, because you are all she talks about when she is with them. She’s bringing you along to show you off to her friends, introduce you to them, while her friends cast their vote in their minds — is he a yay or nay?

5. If she lets her guard down.

That means she trusts you enough to let you in. If she lets you see her vulnerable side, if she opens up to you about her failures and dreams, if she stops putting her best food forward and let you see her as she is… then man, she’s into you.

And if you know she’s into you, please don’t hurt her. Because you don’t know how much courage it took her to let you in. It’s not that she has trust issues, she’s just very protective of her self — of her heart. And if she gives it to you, take good care of it. Because not everyone can have it.

If you hurt her, she will forgive you. She is capable of that. But remember you are dealing with a girl full of ego, she knows well what she deserves. She would rather see you go than let you see that she’s hurt. She can walk out the door and never look back. It doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t love you. She loved you with the best that she can, she just knows when it is enough to walk away.